As we all know that marriage is better for ones and where by two people (man
and woman )joins hands together as a family and we all know that marriage is
made forever so before moving on the opinion of getting marry, there is things
you need to consider before getting marry to ensure peace and loving marriage.
As we all know that Marriage is not a playing game or deal and if Its
mature as folk business and it can’t survive, especially if you decide it
on a whim. both should be crystal clear on why they conclude to marry. For love
sharing is the main response, but there is few other reasons.
A loving and true Friendship Exists. I can’t expect living
in a relationship with someone I didn’t love as a friend. A loving and
honest friendship is the good background for any relationship. if a
strong and reliable relationship must go on, They should apt dated in
saying the truth and receive it as well. A true friendship does not feel
fake or phony, it is authentic.
The Future heading. Both must has sense of long term
thinking when planning to take the relationship to the next level. Yeah, I know
very well it feels surprise right now and if both love each and have a
strong feeling for them self that means, if that feeling should last forever to
move ahead in the relationship. It will with effort, it will not magically
happen because we think it should. Think ahead future and plan accordingly.
Couples should look well beyond the now when they planing to marry to
avoid any further controversy that lead to the future
Self-Love is Alive and Well. Sometimes insecurity
comprises poor decision making. When we don’t love ourselves enough we connect
with those who will not benefit our lives. Self love comes with a sense of
confidence and an energy that is good for any relationship when it is proceed. It also attracts
the same. We don’t set as many unrealistic expectations, or smother our both when we value love in all of who we are.
Marriage is a factor you have to take on with a finished knowledge
and understanding of what’s required. There’s so much more than the honeymoon
phase. We have to be more consider the rainy days, the future and all that comes in the relationship as a family for both partner. The attraction might fade, the finances might drying out, but the
marriage still required to survive. Again, the opinion to marry has to been one
that has been well thought out, especially if we decide to remain married for more years to come.
Forgiveness in its meaning basic sense is letting gone of the desire, the requirement, and the “right” to offer punishment or re-correction for the
perhaps offense. In forgiving, we mention the right to hold
resentment; we stop fanning the flame of anger, and instead require to
restore that which has been lost.
Another reason of forgiveness is to handle little seeds of anger to
be planted, looking them take occurrences in the form of resentment which actually leads to the distance and walls moving ahead better of your relationship.
You may have a problem currently that has taken root in your
relationship in the form of anger,resentment, or perceived inequality.
As you occur the implications of this situation, re-done some
of these part of forgiveness:
- Forgiveness concern on you – your choice to make go of the occurrences of painful and hurt remembers
- Forgiveness is not neither another person’s perception of your problem or relationship.
- Forgiveness create grace – more merited favor, undeserved, and free of expectations.
Forgiveness provides a real and beneficial way to further your relationship and
strengthen what you have in common that's possible any other way.
When we are in pain and hurt deeply , our natural notices is to protect ourselves to avoid
further harm occurrences. This occur through the release of
adrenalin making us into the “fight or flight” destruction. This could
take the act of a spouse upholding emotionally, with-holding who they
are, their feeling of love, in an attempt in reduction vulnerability
for a future injuring , an move to “flees” from substantial hurt. An
individual may avoid themselves by becoming “armed”, by having an
arsenal of critical ready should they act to “fight” when anticipated
painful is triggered and never forgot in the future.
The alternative to with drawing on to the hurt and protecting one another from
future pain that can never be forgot is choosing to create the gift of forgiveness and let the situation be settle to avoid serious pains that can affect the future . Nelson Mandela comes up with resentment quite visually,
“Resentment is like taking poison and then implicating it will kill your
enemies.”
No one become the winner when pain is left without resolved. Pain is a signs that
something is wrong in any aspect and within a relationship when pain occur through
insensitivity, lack of support, not understanding each other, or unmet occurrences , forgiveness makes and create a remedy that has a twofold regain.
Forgiveness makes us to move beyond our painful, to resolved, and to grow.
Forgiveness also offer grace to your partner for a offense that has
been experienced. Forgiveness does not look to equalize a problem,
does not look for whether a problem is fair, rather, looks at not offering pain to take to the next level. Forgiveness is all about giving yourself to
stay vulnerable with hope for future base in your relationship. It need a
willing heart to forget beyond the injury and see the person whom you cherish and love , whose dreams is your own, and to see their own hurt that
has now become your own.
Forgiveness is one of the greatest, unearned, more merited gifts we can gives to our partners. We make a way go of our right to bring a sense of
equality to the situation and instead, disarm the pain and hurt, by forgetting the past of pains and hurts.
Never discriminate the power of a desperate girl to hurry up in married…. This is are what they did below
1. trying to forced or take a friend or relations man. All is fair in love and war! Rumor has flee that women have bring a new way in locking their phones, hiding their men and forming on their gist from so called friends because it is a jungle and treble out there…
2. Re composing themselves. Pretense is the key order of the day. No man wants to teach the in sense and Knowledge or come up with an honest female out of a dis honest one so once marriage is comes up, women formed themselves in pseudo, pack-made easy-to-control, expensive desirable packages. After marriage, the outcome you see is what you get!
3. Forcing him with pregnancy. This is done in the old school method of getting a man to agree. From removing the pill to seduce the man or making him drunk when she is ovulating, a woman usually aware she had the man where she needed him once she cant find or miss her period even thou if there is no commitment.
Now the guys are agree YES to child support and baby mamas .Whether Are the girls deterred? NO! The girls have come up there game by associating the parents and you know parents hate scandals.
4. Praying&Fasting. This will presumably be an opportunity way of getting a husband but
sometimes the prayers comes up to deities other than God & other times it becomes a song permanently on repeat.
5. caring his picture to places for a prophetess to pray over or a powerful Alfa. it look like a charm.
6. using his sperm, hair or personal effects to herbalist So Guys be careful , disposing off your condoms yourself is not such a bad opinion
8. getting and using love portion in his food! This is incredible and timeless but should not it be mention a compelling portion? Because in this situation , love is by force!
9. Agree and conclude YES to a man you despise! A woman has two form of men mostly on her case. The correct guys and the dis-gos. The dis-gos mostly finalize as rebounds but most a woman has shocked a despondent toaster with a uncertainty yes and men have finalize and knew well that truly there is nothing God cannot do!
10. Proposing and want a guy! Yes it does happen… (Who be the one to wears the engagement ring?).
11. Seducing a man's family so they agree the decision for him! A friend noticed that a girl he detested has over the months getting nearly to his family. wasting money on them, cooking for them and actually being there go-to’ girl and it comes up like this that his mum has put her foot down that he had to separate with his girlfriend and agree on little-miss-went-home-to-mama. coming up with on how much power the family use, there word may be finalize and conclude.
12. Requesting daddy to get you a husband! If daddy's a big shot, preparing a husband for you is usually as simple as pie and some men will agree and sell sell their souls for a large chunk of daddy's wealth so both parties are happy living…
13. Acting your man's mega! Some women has this taught that when you at the last get a man to be concern in you, corrupting him and too much every things his every mistake will get you into a white gown early than an okada chased by LASTMA! Some men did not mind a woman who feed them, clothes them, accommodate them, gives him pocket money, never gets angry with them even when they did the wrong part and wash,sweep and cleans up after them with small or no contribution from them… Living the dream
14. Giving him little freedom as concern as he proposes. “Tell me I am the only baby in his life, tell me I am the future mother who will bear your kids and not Amina, Bisi or Ngozi!” Women like and make sure within there power be the one and Only in there man's life, now coming as the number one is good chances…
15. low class be discriminated, barley educated brother in exchange for a ring! The deal is clear, you order your cleaner, gate-man or driver to night school, you give him language order, you take him to purchase some new clothes and design and taught him to call you as honey instead of madam and in exchange, at a stage he become to marry you, share an expensive bedroom and never think about his bills ever again!
16. Making yourself look so specail in changing your style of dressing to seduce him and also learn the karma-sutra, do a vaginoplasty and changed age on your birth certificate to be 23 Botox, Visiting an hospital in changing your status, and using magic body to get on him.
17. Trying to make yourself a worker in church! Rumor has flee it that men goes to church to find woman to marry, the same rumor also open up that greeter, ‘Ushers’ and lead Soloists has the good exposure…praise the Lord!
18. Re-Locating to a new town or part of town so that you are the new girl. This always attract the men interest and at the same time you get to forget away from your past and the old maid labels! join this with number 16 high and ooh la la!
19. Leaving your hopes, dreams and ambitions! theres been saying people say that women depending for a prince charming to get them marry, virgins is an formed of old school, well literacy women are forming, rich women are Well use, ambitious women act and are conceited, women with founding for jobs will not create time for their families, women who need a faithful man are deluded and women who did not get pregnant before wedlock have something bad with their plumbing! So forsake the masters, don’t even dream or think of a PhD, leave your job, share away all your money and surely a husband will come… And if all else fails…
5 Unexpected Things that Could Be Destroying Your Marriage Which you Cant expect,
Some times, when we imagine about what damages a relationship or marriage, our minds think straight on to money troubles or infidelity. And also although those are very real problems for many couples, And there are other things in life that can attribute to the breakup of your marriage.
We have all heard how composing and keeping up marriage not to break up is hard work. Well, it is actually the truth because Marriage are made to be forever. But it is not only about enforcing it in the work. It is also about keeping straight eye out for those day-to-day things that break up up on your relationship and start to become a problem. And seriously, these are little things that you didn't expect to cause much damage. Sometimes, it even convinced that you think was there to make your relationship more stronger. But you see, no matter what if something has the potential to make your relationship stronger, it can also make your relationship weaker… if you are not so careful.
This are a few unexpected things you never imagine that could be destroying and breaking up your marriage.
1. Your Gadgets
I so much love technology as much as the next person. But I also know how confusing it attract and distract it is, particularly if it’s a serious part of the work you do. Whether it’s changing differences and attractive on the web, completing or updating a project, or coping up with social media, too much time invest on your computer can begin to destroy your relationship. Consider managing and creating out times during the week where you can have fun and shares idea and spend more time with your spouse.
2. Your friends
friends initially mean a lot to be consider, but does that actually matter when there “well-meaningful” actions and words start to act with your relationship. You and your spouse good to have friends, but you also have to link-mark and think about what roles those friends play and act in your life and in your relationship especially for marriage and You need to think how the roles play, are they composed the way, you and your spouse like it in the relationship,you are unto. How a lot are you telling them about your marriage? Do you spend much of your free time with them than you do with your spouse? These are just some of the questions you should imagine and ask yourself to point out if your friendships are putting more good effort on your marriage and not destroying it.
3. Your kids
love my kids and my husband(wife) in funny act should be consider not to destroy your marriage because little funny things in your marriage with your kids can result to a critical break up of the marriages which most relationship over the world don't know .because, if you are not careful, a funny thing start happens when you have kids. You start to have your life associated around them and they become the priority all the time you expect. As a parent, certainly having your kids as the priority seems like the right and in order thing, but your spouse should still be a perfect priority in your life too. putting more attention and full times only on your kids and forgetting all about the person with you bringing them up, can lead to a critical problem that can end the relationship.
4. Your career
I am a pretty driven person, and I have no thought of changing differences on that. But I am aware that there is a need to pace myself because I have a husband and kids. If I further more consumed by my drive to succeed, I can begin to kept less attention on their needs. My husband is my mean cheerleader, but if he imagine that cheering for me is making me to forget about him, imagine how he will feel? basing on your career is critical and commendable unto your relationship, but not at the putting more of your marriage and your family.
5. Your self esteem
Low self-esteem has a negative enforce on every aspect of your life. If you feel bad about who you are, you end up in this unhealthy and not suitable pattern that compels you to look the way around for validation. The problem attached on it why you look the outward is that , your spouse can not afford you anything that you aren't willing to give yourself, neither should they have to. You may not think of it or realize it, but low self-esteem is one of those certain things that gradually eats of at the relationships in your life, and your marriage is certainly among them.
There is always the end.It may come,like the thief at the night,stealing up on its unsuspecting victim.it may come ,like the hurricane,exultant in the full,naked fury-of its power catches up with noon.It may come,unsure and with lingering doubts, keeping its victim i the agony of suspense and uncertainty.A prolonged illness, for instance.But it always comes.
To man and woman;insert,bird or beast.
The end .it is not the light at the end of the tunnel.it is the darkness at the end of the tunnel .Oh,There may be celestial city up there where angels minister to the souls of the good and the righteous, but whatever those with the secret telephone line to haven may say,the end is not the darkness before dawn;it is the darkness after dawn.
It is the awesome termination of life. it is the sorry,and sometimes sudden,end to years of planning,years of struggles or years of accumulation.The end makes nonsense of man,reducing his foresight, his plan and his struggles to a single, inexplicable act of folly,Would men and women struggles hard,endure so much suffering and discomfort in pursuit of a life far removed from want only to find themselves suddenly called up yonder?
Question not the end or the reason thereof.it fits in perfectly with the divine order.perhaps,the end as the constant reminder of inevitability (not to talk of abject futility)gives life that mysterious thing that commends everyone to live it to the full.The end is the eternal secret of God.No man (and certainty, no woman) knows when the end will come and how it be . so, no man and no woman ever quiet prepares for the ultimate exit,inevitable as it is.
Thus, for some,the innocuous peck on the check of a child or beloved ones,accompanied by the innocent expression of a temporary separation-good bye( a few hours,a day, a week or a month)-turns out to be the final-act;the good bye becomes final and the separation becomes permanent,when the certain comes down,plans carefully made and nurtured in full anticipation of a life more abundant,come to grief .And wealth and riches -fruit of honest or dishonest labour-are left on-enjoyed.
The end.The candle,the brief candle,ends its dance in the wind.it succumbs .An insect falls supine.The eagle drop from haven.Man's breath ceases.The light goes out.Darkness walks in. The black shroud--the designer wear for the final exit and the permanent curtain between here and hereafter---reminds the living there is always the end,the inevitable ,final exit over which neither Juju nor science hold sway.
American comedian,George Burns, says he is not afraid of flying because he knows if the end meets him there,he will go down in good company.The meter-or strides across the sky.Kings and princes;queens and princesses.In fact and figuratively.Fame and success make demand that other must meet.For others,the curtain comes down with barely a murmur from the audience Meteors are not seen.The drums calling the citizen out for the obligatory public expression of grief and sense of loss are silent,The poor,the paupers,the unknown.Commoners.As in living so is the end.There is always the permanent class division.The famous and successful depart and grief overwhelms, forcing the sun to delayed ever so briefly its daily stroll from east to west.The unknown and the poor depart and time is rebuked for trying to wait long enough to record the time of departure.There is,for you, one secret God is most unwilling to share.
The end.Science does wondrous things.Test tube babies.The computer.The Aeroplane .Brain surgery;heart transplant.Man on the moon.But the end?Science is beaten,helpless.It can only peer.it cannot penetrate.God keeps the secret close to His own heart .it is his clear,unambiguous demonstration of His awesome authority and power,it is the one knowledge He alone is privy to.Unfair?Oops:Men and woman are thus reminded that no matter their station in life,everyone is a mere mortal,living on time allotted by God. And no man knows how much time he has .Men and women must live their lives,uncertain of when or how the end will come but painfully aware that no matter how much the confronts of the life cushion that awareness,the end must come sometime,somehow.
Even the bible finds it wise to remind us all that the end is only a ticking of the clock away.It enjoins us,with a sense of fatality:Let us eat and drink ;for tomorrow we shall die''.(Isaiah 22:13) That is not,to be sure, an endorsement of profligacy or riotous living.Life has a better and greater purpose than food and drink. So we must struggle to overcome,to accomplish,to accumulate.In struggling, We give Inspiration; in overcoming,we give courage;in accomplishing,we give meaning and purpose to life and in accumulate accumulating, we Savour the fruit of our labour.Destiny may make the bed we lie on,but few men and women ever know what destiny has in store for them if they refuse to scratch the surface of the earth in search.We search , we find.And our talent bloom.Their flower sweeten the world.Their fruit feed the hungry.
To every man and woman God gives talent And every man has a divine order:go ye and achieve.
No ma's achievement come to naught by the inevitable act of the final exit.Work endure;achievement endure ;names endure.These make the end merely a cut-off point.Let the falling leaf whisper to the living.
Who you are doesn't tell but what you want to be that what makes you,''stars shine wen you make it shine''A failure does not stop success,it only give more way to reach it.
Beautiful things will see but beautiful things we acquire only when we work for it,We must not say yes to failure until yes say yes to success and living a life that matters to us is necessary,'' Truth are not meant to be remember always live a life that please you,Failure is a journey to success, so dont say yes to failure and also Beautiful or handsome,that not what makes you but what makes you is your character.
Wisdom speaks in real men,A step to take is necessary then to make no step at all, and i came to realize that one is beta than much more better than a wrong ideas by two men and also good character is the best gift that makes a man and the ability to think above your thought makes you a wise-man,Failure is an opportunity for you get to success so you dont misuse the opportunity; and also determination is the best key to success,Wisdom speaks more-than riches.
God exist in all ways,only if you believe he do exist,''hardworking is not the attribute to success ,it only gives way to success,but the only attributes to success is what i call faith and determination.
A wisdom cannot gives birth unless she is pregnant what does thus attain? It attain that ''No salvation can be attain without faith,and Gallant youth are youth who sees challenges as opportunity for up-liniment.
success is a risk, so do take the risk and forget the risk''
The heart speaks the mind of men and the character they exhibit'' character is not inherited but it is something that is adapted and it is a behavior that bound to change any time.
Don't be afraid to fail, because each time you fail, marked you closer to success and also Impossibility is the word that always down-grade the status of a man and never live your life for compliment live for accomplishment
Wisdom is Knowledge.
How to Move that Mountain.
According to the scriptures for verily i say unto you,That whosoever shall say unto this mountain,Be thou removed, and be thou cast into the sea, and shall not doubt in his heart, but shall believed that those things which he saith shall come to pass; he shall have whatsoever he saith {mark11:23}
As long as you are discussing or musing over the challenges you are facing instead of eyeballing them and commanding a changes,you are not going to get the result Jesus spoke more on it in the scripture above.Maye-be it's has growth in a certain part of your body ,and you have been complaining about it to every one around and even receiving sympathy from them;it's time to stop talking about it and talk to it with faith,say ''Growth, die,live from me and pass out of my body in Jesus name,'' and begin to rejoice that it's done.
Perhaps you have been having financial difficulties;it's time to speak and caused a change,God gave you a mouth so you can speak and effect the changes you desire in your life.Your words rule your life;they're what determined whether you're going to be success or a failure.What you say is what you get,positive or negative.
Quiet complaining to God or to those around you about your predicament; just command a change in the name of Jesus.And talk to whatever to be a mountain before you right now.whether it's in your body, your finances,your home,or your business;declared the word of God in faith and surely there will be a perfect change.Move that mountain,
Also Don't speak and start watching to see whether or not the mountain has gone;that's not faith.Faith consider the mountain gone once it has spoken,Jesus said to His disciples after He cursed the fig tree''
Verily I say unto you, if ye have faith,and doubt not,ye shall not only do this which is done to the fig tree,but also if ye shall say unto this mountain,be thou removed,and be thou cast into the sea;it shall be done''(Matthew 21:21). This is the recipe for effecting a change in any situation.To move that mountain,all you need is to declare words of faith.
How to resolved this issues of lack of faith to declared and move that mountain.
You can start like this by saying and speaking this words with faith direct to God,
As i vocalize my faith today,Mountains move,valley are filled and every crooked path is made straight.The word of faith that changes things is in my heart and in my mouth,sharper than any two-edged sword;therefore the situation and circumstances of life conform with God's destiny for me in the name of Jesus amen.
Breaking up the ''fallow ground'' of your heart and making it ready for the words is your responsibility.
How to cultivate your spirit
First: You have to composed in spirit with the God's words and prepare your mind but spiritual and physical for the entrance of God's words In the scriptures,And also the word of God"s word is supernatural gift that can lead to a perfect and changeable way of life in truth with God .In the scriptures saying ,the word of God is likened to a seed,{Luke 8:11)The seed of the word is designed to produce in you a harvest of what it talk s about,health,prosperity,peace,joy,abundance,victory.But if the heart is not made ready for the entrances of the word it will not produce the desired results.
When a Farmer cultivate his land,the first thing he does is to dig and stir it up:He ploughs it.Now the Bible tells us to stir up and the gift of God in us,that gift is the holy spirit,and one way to stir up his power in you is through speaking in tongues. when the power is stirred, it becomes automatically easy for the word of God to get into your spirit and sink deep into your consciousness.
The second things a farmer does in preparing his land for sowing is to fertilizer the land,and we fertilize our spirit through purity prayer.Through prayer, your spirit is conditioned and positioned rightly to receive the word of God.Christian who pray often and accurately are always synchronized with God's present and perfect will for their lives.They are positioned in God's place,In God's time,for God purpose, in God's way
When your spirit is cultivated and you are working according to the terms of it cultivation you will keep experiencing a harvest of the word in your life.Never allow your heart lie fallow .Meditate on the word and pray regularly,and your spirit will produced for you a harvest of the word.
